I wrote this post 2 years ago and felt that it was time people heard/read this again!
What does it require for me to fit in? Does it mean that I have to change who I am in order to conform to society’s ways? Will I have to go against everything that I believe in to make others happy?
Now, trust me, whether you like to admit it or not, we have ALL tried to fit in. Some way. Somehow. We have TRIED to fit in. But then suddenly, we all realised that ‘fitting’ in was just too much work and gave up. Trying to conform to the image that society has for you, comes with so many consequences. The media doesn’t help either: one month they want girls to be thin but when I make it thin, its changed to thick girls. Boy, the media changes their mind quicker than I change my socks.
So, what happens when I don’t fit in?
Bullying? Hatred? Anger? Loneliness?
Why do you let society and the media dictate who you are and who you can be?
For me, not fitting in didn’t become a problem that I faced until I came to university. You go from being a big fish in a small pond, to a small fish in a big pond and it seemed as though my pond had some chlorine or some pesticide in it. Because, when I tell you that I found it hard to make friends. I FOUND IT HARD TO MAKE FRIENDS.
I prayed that God will bring the correct people in my life when the time is right. I guess that previously, I had spent so much time claiming that I was a Christian but doing things totally against that. That God wanted me to spend time with him. GOD IS A JEALOUS GOD. God will make sure that your relationship with him is consistent before placing anyone else in your life. Once God felt I was focusing on him and spending more time with him, he placed people in my life. People that in a million years I didn’t think would accept me for who I am.
The way I see it is, God is an awesome God. Think. We all have the same characteristics: 2 eyes, 1 nose, 1 mouth and 2 ears. How do we all look so different? Genesis 1:27– Therefore, God created mankind in his own image. As God created you to be the image he wants you to be. What authority do we have to change because we feel as though we are not fitting into society’s image of us? Is society greater to you than your creator?
I know this is cliche but prayer conquers all. Prayer changes things. You have to be consistent with God. God will not give you everything you desire straight away for you to just go on and forget about him. He will make sure that you receive your blessings but we are living in testing times. The enemy is out there. Everywhere. The things that you watch, are you watching them because you enjoy them or because you will feel left out if you don’t watch it? The music you listen to, would you play it in front of your parents? If not then, that’s an issue between you and God. Music has a spiritual notion to it. It influences you and the way you live. But only if you let it.
Does it really matter if you don’t fit in though?
Like, is there a rule book that I haven’t read where it clearly states that we must fit in?
Cheez, if anyone tries telling you that you don’t fit in then you need to distance yourself from these people. Proverbs 27:17 An iron sharpens an iron, and one man sharpens another. In order for you to grow you need to surround yourself with people that will encourage and support you. Friends are supposed to help each other grow that means correcting us when we are wrong and helping us when we are down. Having a great circle of friends is vitally important when you want to grow. These friends are the ones that you can go two weeks without speaking to and when you call each other you’re speaking for a good good two hours. These friends accept you and all your mistakes. These friends become family. Yeah, that’s right. FRIENDS BECOME FAMILY. Allow yourself for God to change you so that you can find people like this. Without God and my closest friends, my toughest battles would have defeated me.
All this rubbish about doing abc to fit in, is not important. What matters is you. Focus on you. Focus on who God has called YOU to be. The rest will follow. Once you begin your walk with Christ, you realise all the things of the world do not matter to you. Yes, the world is an evil place. Once you are sucked into this, it is hard to come out the other side. But, just think how AWESOME God is and he has amazing plans for you to prosper and achieve all things through him.
Most importantly though, Matthew 6:13 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.
SEEKING God before anything, means looking to God before man. Look to seek God and he shall reveal things to you.
FIRST- This means before anything or anyone. God should be your first port of call.
Peace & Love